I write to my 22nd year with tears in my eyes because, 21 wasn’t all that. I tried my best but 22, you better be good. Not like you still wouldn’t happen. 21+ had me buying birthday balloons to take a picture with in preparation of 22, but I end up not inflating it at the very least. This is me sitting in one corner of my room crying over situations I thought I got over already.
21 had me meeting various persons and dropping them right before I even got to know them. That’s sad. 21 had me think thrice. I think I lost my way and found it. I lived in the minute times but it got diminished fast. I thought about my life a lot, over and over, because this isn’t what I wished myself at 21. I became crying princess. I cried at the slightest.
21 had me wishing I held on longer to friendships I thought meant nothing by letting them go. I am happy I let them go because they began to flourish right after I let them go.
whispers* I think I was their bad luck.
Even as I am striking 22, I still feel some type of way about how my life is wired or how I live my life. There’s so much pressure, you know well about that. I am still figuring out my pattern and way of life. It is challenging and tasking but you are a strong woman and here is a check card to keep you going.
Dear Shade,
I hope this letter finds you well and in good spirits. You are approaching your 22nd birthday, and I want you to take a moment to reflect on your journey and your fragile life so far. What are the odds, that you would turn out this way? Aren’t you amazed? Well-done girl!
To begin with, let me congratulate you on reaching this milestone. Turning 22 marks the beginning of a new phase. Cheers to a new standard and discovery. This is one that will definitely bring new challenges, opportunities, and experiences. I have no doubt that you will rise to meet these challenges head-on,{because you are a super-woman} with the same determination and drive that have brought you this far.
As you embark on this new chapter, I want you to remember a few things. Never forget the importance of taking care of yourself – physically, mentally, and emotionally. Prioritize your health and everything that concerns you. It is all about you. Literally, push the bad energy away.
Shadie-Badie put you first. You matter. You exist for you. This is no way to treat a queen! Add some respect to that name! This means getting enough sleep, eating well, staying active, not settling for less. You know the standards, raise them.
Next, don’t be afraid to take risks and try new things. I admire my friend so much and she is a very strong force I want to emulate. No matter how small, Shade, take it. You’re at an age where you have the freedom and flexibility to explore different paths and discover what truly excites and motivates you.
Whether that means traveling to a new country, starting a new job, or pursuing a passion project, embrace the opportunities that come your way and trust your instincts. So why hold back? How hard could it get? Or how tough can it be? Let us try new things Shade, you have time.
Furthermore, remember that your life is a journey, not a destination. Oh, there will be setbacks and challenges along the way. It can be draining and frustrating, but sit to think about it, reflect on it and ask, “Is it worth giving up?” Ask those questions. Do not run away from them, because these are opportunities for growth and learning.
In addition, I want you to know that you are not alone. I know you would rather deal with it alone, because they probably cannot relate. But I want you to always remember, you have a support system of friends, family, and mentors who believe in you and want to see you succeed.
Lastly, Shade, make sure to love with all your might. Give it everything you have. Love like that is all that matters. Love without judging and being shady. Love without being scared of vulnerability or being scared of heartbreak. Love and be free Shade. You deserve it.
As you celebrate your 22nd, I pray that all good things come with ease and plenty. I want to see you shine and excel. I am rooting for you big time and I am your biggest fan. I also want you to take a moment to reflect on your life so far and how it can be better. I trust you’d do exploits. I love you Shadie-Badie! 🎈
HAPPY 22nd! 🎉
Yours sincerely, 🫂
MORENIKEJI A. ODEBIYI
PS: I have the 22 aesthetic balloons I didn’t use, if you want ’em, hmu. 🫂
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